Are you currently in a decluttering “slump”? Maybe you started your journey to a clutter-free life full of energy and ambition. Somewhere along the way, though, things went horribly awry. Have you fallen prey to circumstances that seek to undermine your vision of a decluttered home? Here are 3 things that will sabotage even the best decluttering efforts (and what you can do about them).
3 Things That Will Sabotage Your Decluttering Efforts
Try not to feel too bad. At some point, we’ve all been in your shoes! Rest assured, you are not alone in your decluttering efforts. My number one goal is to help you get back on track so you can start living the simple life of your dreams.
The first thing you need to do is identify whatever is sabotaging your decluttering efforts. Once you know the culprit(s), you can get to work on rectifying the situation. Unfortunately, not all road bumps in the decluttering process are avoidable. Sometimes time and patience are the only cures available.
But how can you tell whether your decluttering efforts have been thwarted by something entirely out of your control or if you are in fact responsible for your own lack of progress?
1 | PROCRASTINATION
Lately, have you been actively delaying or postponing decluttering your home? I’ve got news for you, this is the epitome of procrastination.
Why do we procrastinate? I don’t know, ask me tomorrow! {Just kidding.}
We tend to procrastinate for one of three main reasons.
- Perfectionists often procrastinate. I suspect the reason for this is because a person (ahem…me) who is a perfectionist tends to worry so much about failing a task that they put off completing it until the last possible moment. Or worse, they simply never tackle the project at all.
- It’s human nature to want to avoid unnecessary stress and unpleasant tasks. Let’s face it, decluttering is hard work. It can be emotionally and physically draining. Think about it, would you rather click “play” on yet another episode of {fill-in-your-favorite-binge-show} or declutter twenty boxes of decades-old photos?
- There is a disconnect between our present and future selves. If this sounds like a bunch of psychobabble, it’s because it is. But seriously, hear me out. We know we would be calmer, happier, and less stressed if we simplified our lives. Common sense tells us this is true. Unfortunately, it’s difficult for us to envision this future version of ourselves because we are so bogged down by our frazzled, miserable, overextended current selves that we keep putting off for tomorrow what we should be doing today.
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Solutions to Procrastination
So, how can we renew our decluttering efforts and stop procrastinating?
1. Break decluttering tasks up into manageable pieces.
So maybe you don’t have an entire weekend, afternoon, or even an uninterrupted hour to dedicate to decluttering. Let me ask you something. Can you devote 10 minutes to your decluttering efforts? How about 15? Carve out small blocks of time whenever possible, set a timer, and get to work. I promise these short sessions can have a lasting effect on your clutter.
2. Stop beating yourself up.
It’s good to have goals and ambitions. It’s not good, however, to torture yourself for failing to meet those goals. Instead, choose to celebrate your small decluttering victories such as clearing a desk, countertop, or drawer, and you’ll be motivated to continue. Do you struggle with allowing negative thoughts to override positive ones? Check out this post from Farnoosh Brock on clearing mind clutter.
3. Get connected.
Find a support group. Search Facebook and Instagram for people who are also trying to dig themselves out of clutter. Encourage each other. And remember, no matter what stage you are at in the decluttering process, I am here to help. I answer all comments and emails personally. We are all in this together.
4. Settle for good enough.
Remember what I said about the perfectionist’s mentality? Don’t expect your home to turn out like the staged homes you see on Pinterest and in magazines. Aim to create a comfortable environment for you and your family, and learn to be content with what you have.
5. Prioritize.
Every single one of us has the same 24 hours each day. So how is it, you ask, that some people are able to “do it all”? The short answer is, they can’t. No one can. People who seem to have it all together are good at one thing. Prioritizing. They choose the most important tasks for any given day and focus on those tasks until they are complete. Everything else gets put off for another day or eliminated altogether. Oh, and they are often really good at delegating, too.
2 | ILLNESS
Being sick yourself or having sick kids for any length of time is sure to sabotage even the best decluttering efforts.
I don’t know how it is with your family, but our family likes to share everything. Especially germs! When one person catches a virus in our house, you can bet that at least two more will get it. In fact, at least once a year, our family has to be “quarantined” for a month (or more) just so we all have time to recuperate!
Solutions to Illness
I wish I could tell you there was an easy solution when illness derails your decluttering efforts, but, unfortunately, there is not. The only thing you can do when you or a family member is sick is to enter what I call “survival mode”. During survival mode, your goal should be healing whoever is ill. You will need to do your best to keep up on dishes and laundry from a sanitary standpoint, but everything else should be postponed until you or your loved ones are feeling better.
The same holds true if you suffer from a chronic illness. When we are sick, it’s our body’s way of telling us it needs a break. Allow yourself to rest and recharge. And, most importantly, don’t be afraid to ask for help!
THE NUMBER ONE ROADBLOCK TO DECLUTTERING
3 | KIDS
Okay, so this one doesn’t even need explaining, does it?
I love kids. I really do. In fact, I love them so much, I chose to have three of them.
I also love being a minimalist.
I’m not gonna lie, kids create clutter. For every one thing you declutter, you can pretty much guarantee your child will bring in three more. If you have a child who is a collector (aka packrat), and you are trying to declutter, you are fighting an uphill battle!
Kids are magnets for clutter. Whether it’s papers and projects from school, crafts from church, or party favors, stuff not only finds them, it begs them to take it home.
To make matters worse, some kids (like mine) get emotionally attached to every little trinket, rock, and doodad they come across.
Can I get an “amen”?
Solutions to Kids
When it comes to kids sabotaging your decluttering efforts you have a few options.
- Wait eighteen (or so) years. Then declutter.
- Train them while they are young. If you are starting your simple living journey while your children are still young (or better yet, before you even have children) I have good news. It’s easier to raise a clutter-free child from a young age than to convert an older child. If you have young children or have yet to have children, the most difficult part of decluttering will be trying to get the grandparents on board.
- Communicate with them. If you have older children who are already “set” in their ways, don’t give up. Kid’s are resilient little creatures and they can learn to love a simple, decluttered life, with the right guidance from you. Be sure to include older children in the decluttering process and share with them your vision of a life where you aren’t spending all of your free time taking care of your stuff. Explain that with less stuff to take care of, you will be able to spend more time with them.
- Lead by example. Declutter your stuff first. Then move on to your kids’ stuff. Once they see the positive effects a clutter-free environment has on you, they will be more willing to join in. If, for some reason they are not, you can always bribe them. Offer to help them sell some of their stuff and let them keep the proceeds. Money can be a great motivator for older kids.
Sometimes, our decluttering efforts are disrupted by circumstances beyond our control (like illness). Other times, we find our motivation has stalled due to situations we have a say in (such as kids and our own procrastination). Whatever the reason, I urge you to take action against your clutter today!
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I use the timer to get motivated just for basic cleaning that just NEEDS
to be done. Once I get started I realize how much I can get done in 15 minutes and continue on. Never thought about using it for decluttering.
My sister set a goal to get rid of 2 things each day. After a year she had a hard time finding anything else to get rid of.
Once when she was visiting, she helped me go through my china cabinet. I couldn’t decide on some things and was paralyzed which is one reason I put off decluttering. She said to get rid of the things you can decide on right now and come back later a few weeks or so and look at it again.
I find it very helpful to have someone work beside me. It keeps me focused during the time they are here and helps me to think through whether I really want to keep it or not. Unfortunately my sister lives too far away. I’ve hired responsible teenagers in the summer to work with me.
I love what you said about procrastination! To prioritize, and break it down into manageable time segments. It’s nuch easier to tell myself that I’m going to clean out my closet for 10 minutes, than having to dedicate the entire afternoon to the task. Thank you!
I agree with adding #4 Husband. My young son is actually better at helping me declutter than my husband. He often undoes my hard work at organizing!
You forgot to add to your list of sabotaging, well meaning but pain in the you – know – what family members. My Mum thinks it’s as easy as throwing everything in the garbage. I have three large tubs from Wal Mart. One for garbage, another for recycling and one other for donations. I play a CD while I’m cleaning, and when the CD is finished playing, I’m done for the day no matter how much or how little was done. I make a cup of tea and turn on Dr. Full – of – Beans to see if there are more dysfunctional families worse than mine. ☕️????
Ha ha! Fart bubbles! That’s too funny 🙂 I agree with giving kids control over ‘their’ stuff. I have boys and they tend to be concrete thinkers so my approach is to show them the amount of space they have to utilize and instruct them to make decluttering decisions based on those limits. Because… you’re right, there’s only so much real estate! Good luck!
Oh wow! I just read some of the comments and am so shaken into perspective! I don’t normally say such things, but: May heaps of blessings be upon you who have such heavy emotional & physical challenges!! Your comments are helpful to people like me, who need to approach decluttering with the reality of gratitude & humility. Thank you for sharing your stories. The world needs to hear them.
I’m so glad I read this post. I didn’t read anyone else’s comments so I hope I’m not treading on others’ words: I will ask my 6 & 10yo this weekend, “Would you rather spend free time having fun together OR taking care of your stuff?” They love ‘would you rather’ Qs (like, “…fart bubbles or burp confetti?” Haha… I may lead with a few silly ones before I toss the “seriously!” one at them.) Really, though, I DO want to lead by example but I also want them to feel the sense of control over their time & space. And, c’mon, there’s only so much real estate. Your wording has inspired me to reframe my complaints & be kinder with my self-expectations. Thank you.
It really sounds as if you NEED ALL the stuff gone so you can focus on you! I’ll be doing a room soon and looking forward to it so much since I was wheelchair bound till recently I began exercising. I’ll be hoping you will do your letting go even though it’s emotional, too.
Melanie,
I can’t even imagine the effects of a heart condition on keeping you from being able to declutter! I’m so glad you are getting healthier and have the strength to start decluttering! Thank you for the inspiration 🙂
I have a heart condition. This is the first year of the last three that I have been basically infection free ( life threatening infections). I have been absorbing everything I can on decluttering. My parents, sister, grandparents are all hoarders, so I usually turn to those people when I need help cleaning. In July my sister asked how she could help. We went through my bedroom closet in a matter of hours, gave away seven boxes of clothing and other items and made room for storage, which will, in turn, help me gain more storage in another area. It CAN be done!!!!
Robyn,
I am so glad you’re here! Take it easy, though. Decluttering is not worth a trip to the hospital 🙂 I am sorry to hear about your children. It’s good you have children & grandchildren to keep you going. Remember, our memories of others are not contained in their “stuff” but in our hearts and minds. Best wishes on your decluttering journey, and if you have any questions, feel free to email me! {Just click “contact me” at the top or bottom of this page).
It was no accident I came across your page.I have been going crazy trying to get my house organized.My back hurts,my whole body aches from moving boxs,resorting,then not able to find what I know I just saw.I have been marking boxs really good too.My biggest problem,besides just getting so tired and being so scatter brained,I have had 2 of my children die.I don’t have alot of their things but with my living daughters and granddaughters I find it hard to let go of any of their stuff.Thank you so much for putting all this in perspect it to me.I like the few minuets too,I start in one area and end up in another and leave messes all over the place.I just want the clutter gone. thank you again.